Sarah Dessen quote: "Because you have to just go with the flow. Your life is not your own, with people coming in and out all the time. You get mellow because you have to."

It's okay to accept things from people. It doesn't make you weak or helpless.
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When I pictured myself, it was always like just an outline in a colouring book, with the inside not ...
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But you don’t have to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.”
“You don’t have to assum...
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The best gifts come from the heart, not the store.
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He wasn't the type for displays of affection, either verbal or not. He was disgusted by couples that...
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Life is an awful, ugly place to not have a best friend.
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So you're always honest," I said.
"Aren't you?"
"No," I told him. "I'm not."
"Well, t...
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There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single f...
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And that was it. All this buildup to a great leap, and I didn't fall or fly. Instead I found myself ...
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You, have this whole tall, dark stranger thing going on. Not to mention the tortured artist bit.
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But it was okay not to fit in everywhere, as long as you did somewhere.
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Okay,' he said. He took a breath. 'What would you do, if you could do anything?'
I took a step ...
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The choices you make now, the people you surround yourself with, they all have the potential to affe...
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But that was the problem with having the answers. It was only after you gave them that you realized ...
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I realized how truly hard it was, really, to see someone you love change right before your eyes. Not...
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But if something was really important, fate made sure it somehow came back to you and gave you anoth...
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But if everything was always smooth and perfect, you'd get too used to that, you know? You have to h...
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I don't know. Just because someone's pretty doesn't mean she's decent. Or vice versa. I'm not into a...
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I don't get it,' Caroline said, bemused. 'She's the only one with wings. Why is that?'
There we...
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If this was my forever, I wouldn't want to spend it here.
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the truth about forever is that it is happening right now
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Life can be long or short, it all depends on how you choose to live it. it's like forever, always ch...
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I have to admit, an unrequited love is so much better than a real one. I mean, it's perfect... As lo...
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Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.
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We'd start slow, the way we always did, because the run, and the game, could go on for awhile. Maybe...
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What you have to decide... is how you want your life to be. If your forever was ending tomorrow, wou...
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But I'd long ago learned not to be picky in farewells. They weren't guaranteed or promised.
Yo...
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Shoulda, coulda, woulda. It's so easy in the past tense.
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It was just one of those things," I said, "You know, that just happen. You don't think or plan. You ...
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What you need, what you deserve, is a guy who adores you for what you are. Who doesn't see you as a ...
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Some people, they can't just move on, you know, mourn and cry and be done with it. Or at least seem ...
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I like flaws. I think they make things interesting.
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It's all in the view. That's what I mean about forever, too. For any one of us our forever could end...
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That was the thing. You never got used to it, the idea of someone being gone. Just when you think it...
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It's just that...I just think that some things are meant to be broken. Imperfect. Chaotic. It's the ...
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If you try anything, if you try to lose weight, or to improve yourself, or to love, or to make the w...
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There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you'd bet...
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All I'd ever wanted was to forget. but even when I thought I had, pieces had kept emerging, like bit...
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I knew, in the silence that followed, that anything could happen here. It might be too late: again, ...
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Don't think or judge, just listen.
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I wondered if emotions were like menstrual cycles, if you get enough women together. Give it time, a...
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How it felt to have the world moving beneath me, a hand gripping mine, knowing if I fell, at least I...
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Home wasn't a set house, or a single town on a map. It was wherever the people who loved you were, w...
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There are some things in this world you rely on, like a sure bet. And when they let you down, shifti...
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If you didn't love him, this never would have happened. But you did. And accepting that love and eve...
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You should never be surprised when someone treats you with respect, you should expect it.
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Life is full of screwups. You're supposed to fail sometimes. It's a required part of the human exist...
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Your past is always your past. Even if you forget it, it remembers you.
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If you expect the worst, you'll never be disappointed.
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It shouldn't be easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It's the things you fight for and stru...
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Music is the great uniter. An incredible force. Something that people who differ on everything and a...
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He thought about this for a second. "True. But if you never really make friends, you probably don't ...
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Hey, and for what it's worth? Friends don't leave you alone in the woods. Friends are the ones who c...
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You know, when it works, love is pretty amazing. It's not overrated. There's a reason for all those ...
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No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to giv...
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Love is needing someone. Love is putting up with someone's bad qualities because they somehow comple...
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I don't know," I said. "What else did you do for your first eighteen years?"
"Like I said," he ...
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Music is a total constant. That's why we have such a strong visceral connection to it, you know? Bec...
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Some things don't last forever, but some things do. Like a good song, or a good book, or a good memo...
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I am coming to terms with the fact that loving someone requires a leap of faith, and that a soft lan...
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This is the problem with dealing with someone who is actually a good listener. They don’t jump in ...
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I don't lie."
"You don't lie," I repeated.
"That's what I said."
"Ever."
"Nope."...
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for once, you believed in yourself. you believed you were beautiful and so did the rest of the world...
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I don't live in New York or California. I'm in the grocery store, at the park with my kids, ...
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I'm always hopeful. I feel like I'm at the prom sitting against the wall waiting for someone...
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When I was a teen, I was never really into the captain of the football team or the student body pres...
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It's not always easy being her daughter.'

I think,' she said, 'sometimes it's hard no ma...
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I thought this was a cookout. You know, dogs and burgers, Tater Tots, ambrosia salad" Dexter picked ...
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Oh, God," I said.
"No, it's Dexter," he replied, offering me his hand, which I ignored.
He...
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What the hell," I said, pushing off the wall, ready to take off the head of whatever stupid salesper...
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But you, fine sir." John Miller clapped Dexter on the shoulder, a bit unsteadily. "You have problems...
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Plastic ware," he said slowly, "like knives and forks and spoons?"
I brushed a bit of dirt off ...
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Are those the only options? Nothing or forever?
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I just thought to my self, all of a sudden, that we had something in common. A natural chemistry, if...
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I was born in 1970 in Illinois, but all the life I remember I've spent in Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Outside, the ocean was crashing, waves hitting sand, then pulling back to sea. I thought of everythi...
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Maybe if I'd agreed to do the debutante thing like she wanted. Or taken up pageants instead of ridin...
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Relationships dont always make sense. Especially from the outside
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Maybe the truth was, it shouldn't be so easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It's the thing...
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Accepting all the good and bad about someone. It's a great thing to aspire to. The hard part is actu...
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Stuff that would be weird in the bright light of day just wasn't so much once you passed a certain h...
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Really, it had been stupid to expect anything anyway. A few late nights does not a habit, or a relat...
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I sat up, sliding them off, and the quiet around me did not, for once, seem empty and vast. Instead,...
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Look, everyone mourns at their own pace. Maybe you're just a little bit ahead of her, but she'll get...
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She bought seeds and raided nurseries and mulched and composted and spent full days with her hands f...
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But anyone can begin. It was the part with all the promise, the potential, the things I loved. More ...
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There's just something obvious about emptiness, even when you try to convince yourself otherwise.
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Macy: “In Truth,” I said, “there are no rules other than you have to tell the truth.”
W...
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funny how a beautiful song could tell such a sad story
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Life shouldn't be about the either/or. We're capable of more than that, you know?
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Not everything's perfect, especially in the beginning. And its all right to have a little bit of reg...
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Well, it's true that I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But it's also true that I have loved,...
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She knew I could tell with one glance, one look, one simple instant. It was her eyes. Despite the th...
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I didnt pay atteniton to times or distance, instead focusing on how it felt just to be in motion, kn...
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Wherever you will go,
I will let you down,
But this lullaby goes on.
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I am still the center sister. But I see it differently now. There has to be a middle. Without it, no...
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Maybe not," she said as we came to the car. "But maybe that isn't so bad. You can't love anyone that...
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Remy: Did you really believe, that first day, that we were meant to be together?

Dexter: ...
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Love is so unpredictable. That's what makes it so great.
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Silence is so freaking loud
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Maybe other writers have perfect first drafts, but I am not one of them. I always try to get the boo...
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You're not supposed to have it all figured out in high school. If you knew it all, and it was th...
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I'd still thought that everything I thought about that night-the shame, the fear-would fade in time....
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Despite my dad's assurances I was strangely nervous my stomach tight ever since we'd hung up. Maybe ...
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That was the hard thing about grief, and the grieving. They spoke another language, and the words we...
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because a song can take you back instantly to a moment, or a place, or even a person. no matter what...
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I've never envied the person who had to put my books together in one script.
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Sometimes, you get things right the first time. Others, the second. But the third time, they say, is...
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He glanced over at me. 'Scared? Of Reggie? What, she thinks he might force her to give up caffeine f...
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In midair, dangling lost above the world.
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And so we stood there in the kitchen, my mother and I, facing off over everything that had built up ...
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And to know me, as you have discovered, is to love me.
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Sometimes you dont even want to think aout what people are doing with their groceries.
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Best Friends.

And I thought of what she had done all the millions of times I cried to he...
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Why don't you ever wait a second and see what I'm planning, or thinking, before you burst in with yo...
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I didn't want to leave things the way we had, unresolved, ... and tried to tell myself he cared abou...
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It was something I couldn't put my finger on or define clearly, but a whole mishmash of words and in...
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As far as I was concerned, we'd come to a draw: I hadn't wanted to come, and she didn't want me to l...
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The language of solace, and comets, and the girls we all become, in the end.
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This world is an awful/ugly place not to have a best friend.
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its reall bad
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Just like that, with one phone call, she was a daughter again.
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I hoped that Grace would be a little bit of the best of all of us: Scarlett's spirit, and my mother'...
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If you have just one person believe in you, you'll always find your way
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You can't just plan a moment when things get back on track, just as you can't plan the moment you lo...
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And that was it; it was so easy for her. My own memories did not even belong to me. But I knew she w...
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I knew I had to keep him to myself, as I'd slowly begun to keep everything. We had secrets now, trut...
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He wasn't what I'd thought he was; maybe he never had been. I wasn't what I'd thought I was, either.
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When I pictured myself, it was always like just an outline in a coloring book, with the inside not y...
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Mom." I couldn't believe she was doing this again. She was taking this moment, this time when I was ...
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I wondered again why the right thing always seemed to be met with so much resistance, when you'd thi...
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Macon: “It’s true. And if that doesn’t work, use the Jedi Mind Trick. But only if you really h...
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Don't be a fool. Don't give up something important to hold onto someone who can't even say they love...
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I've given lots of people chances," she said suddenly, as if Marion was still in the room to hear us...
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I watched my mother do what she did best, and realized there would never be a way to cut myself from...
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You can't just turn your heart off like a faucet; you have to go to the source and dry it out, drop ...
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You can't just plan a moment when things get back on track, just as you can't plan the moment you lo...
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What is family? They were the people who claimed you. In good, in bad, in parts or in whole, they we...
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Because this is what happens when you try to run from the past. It just doesn’t catch up, it overt...
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Sometimes it seems safer to hold it all in, where the only person who can judge is yourself.
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The bottom line is, what defines you isn't how many times you crash, but the number of times you get...
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An ending was an ending. No matter how many pages of sentences and paragraphs of great stories led u...
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So many times it seemed like there were chances to stop things before they started. Or even stop the...
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Friends are honest with each other. Even if the truth hurts.
-Maggie
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Two a.m.' He swallowed, then said, "You know. The person you can call at two a.m. and, no matter wha...
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So much had happened that morning. Yet it was this image, this moment, that i kept going back to hou...
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[Adam picks up the camera] "I have to get a shot of this."
The reaction in the room was swift, ...
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You get what you give, but also what you're willing to take.
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It didn't make you noble to step away from something that wasn't working, even if you thought you we...
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There's a kind of radar that you get, after years of being talked about and made fun of by other peo...
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You can't make any one person your world. The trick is to take what each can give you and build a wo...
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Hate Spinnerbait!
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It's a lot easier to be lost than found. It's the reason we're always searching and rarely discovere...
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It doesn't matter, anyway, why you like me. Just that you do.
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Suddenly, I was just sure he was going to kiss me. He was there, I could feel his breath, the ground...
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There was something so heavy about the burden of history, of the past. I wasn't sure I had it in me ...
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Oh for God's sake,' Heather said, 'I wish you two would just go out, fail miserably as a couple, and...
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It's a great compliment that people think they're fast reads. It's always funny to me because it tak...
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Wherever you will go,
I will let you down,
But this lullaby goes on.
SARAH DESSEN

I think my mother characters have changed a lot since Sasha was born, just because I understand what...
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With love like that, you can't get pick about how it finds you or the details. All that matters is t...
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You want me to give her a key?" the guy asked.
"I want you to give her a possibility," she told...
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What was it like to be so confident even in your failings that you weren't the least bit bothered wh...
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Look,” he said, “the point is there’s no way to be a hundred percent sure about anyone or anyt...
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Your mother won a special reward," she told me, "because everyone had a head in her pictures. We all...
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Rogerson," I asked him sweetly as we sat watching a video in the pool house, "where would I find the...
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I'd heard of Evergreen Care Center before. Cass and I had always made fun of the stupid ads they ran...
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Nothing like being scolded by a hippie.
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After all, it's all kinds of things that make up a life, right? The big, like falling in love and sp...
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I knew this feeling, the 2 a.m. loneliness that I'd practically invented.
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Maybe we were all destined to just keep doing the same stupid things, over and over again, never rea...
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After the group vet appointment--during which Lyle scratched the vet, the vet tech, and some poor wo...
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It [I'm leaving] wasn't really necessary to say, especially if you were already walking away. Almost...
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It was so risky and so scary, and yet at the same time, so beautiful. Maybe the truth was, it should...
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When you don't know where you're going, maybe it wasn't such a bad thing to have more than you need.
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That's not a real answer.'
Says who?'
Says me. I mean real fear, like of failure, of death...
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It's hard to be nice when the rest of the world is so mean.
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I want the white one
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As Isabel acted out her date, both of them laughing, I stayed in the kitchen, out of sight, and pret...
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Isn't it weird," I said, "the way you remember things, when someone's gone?"
What do you mean?"...
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I can still see Boo sitting there on the floor, cross-legged, holding my Ken and watching my face as...
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So what's your doll's name?" Boo asked me.
"Barbie," I said. "All their names are Barbie."
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Why should I even bother? What's the point, really?"
He thought for a moment. "Who says there h...
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I couldn't imagine what it would be like to be one of so many, to have not just parents and siblings...
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If someone is really close with you, your getting upset or them getting upset is okay, and they don�...
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Restoring order of my personal universe suddenly seemed imperative, as I refolded my T-shirts, stuff...
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There were so many places in my time with Rogerson that I wished I could go back to, hitting the sto...
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That's what this has been all about for you, correct? Make it clear. That you and me--it was nothing...
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And for one second, it was like I could feel the timing clicking together, finally pieces falling in...
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Sometimes, you have to manufacture your own history. Give fate a push, so to speak.
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It was amazing how you could get so far from where you'd planned, and yet find it was exactly were y...
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These were always the weirdest trips for me, when it was midnight or even later, and we pulled up to...
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You couldn't just pick and choose at will when someone depended on you, or loved you. It wasn't like...
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Story of my life.
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instead, we just sat there, together but really apart, watching a show about a stranger and all her ...
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I understood now. This voice, the one that had been trying to get my attention all this time, callin...
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I am the middle sister. The one in between. Not oldest, not youngest, not boldest, not nicest. I am ...
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I'd been convinced I was on the outside, but really, I'd always been within arm's reach. All I had t...
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Because this is what happens when you try to run from the past. it doesn't just catch up: it overtak...
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Because the truth sometimes hurts," I said.
Yeah," he said. "So do lies, though.
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Because you have to just go with the flow. Your life is not your own, with people coming in and out all the time. You get mellow because you have to.

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Because you have to just go with the flow. Your life is not your own, with people coming in and out all the time. You get mellow because you have to.

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