A double bind is far worse than a straightforward damned-if-you-do, damned-if-you-don't dilemma. It requires you to obey two mutually exclusive commands: Anything you do to fulfill one violates the other.

Strength and compassion are not mutually exclusive.

While the requirements of a good leader and a good man are similar, the requirements of a good leader and a good woman are mutually exclusive. A good leader must be tough, but a good woman must not be. A good woman must be self-deprecating, but a good leader must not be.

Being a defense hawk and a budget hawk are not mutually exclusive.

Praising the Lord and passing the ammunition are mutually exclusive ideas.

A woman can be seeking attention and also make a statement.They don't need to be mutually exclusive.