Almost all the ideas we have about being a man or being a woman are so burdened with pain, anxiety, fear and self-doubt. For many of us, the confusion around this question is excruciating.

Most men are very attached to the idea of being male, and usually experience a lot of fear and insecurity around the idea of being a man. Most women are very identified with their gender, and also experience a tremendous amount of fear and insecurity.

What's the point of being a lesbian if a woman is going to look and act like an imitation man?

I have no objection to a man being a man, however masculine that may be.

You act at being a man, and before you know it, you are one.

Acting is just being a man. Being human. Not forcing it.