Anger has been a really big deal for women: how can we express it without feeling that, as the physically weaker sex, we won't get killed. The alpha-woman was burned at the stake and had her head chopped off in days of old.

I miss that sensation of a small achievement feeling like a really big deal.

When I was younger, I was terrified to express anger because it would often kick-start a horrible reaction in the men in my life. So I bit my tongue. I was left to painstakingly deal with the aftermath of my avoidance later in life, in therapy or through the lyrics of my songs.

The Oscars have become such a big deal these days that it's just used as adjective.

The NBA wasn't a big deal at that time, so it wasn't really in my career plans.

It wasn't really a big deal,