Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.
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LAO TZU Take full responsibility of yourself, of your actions and of your inaction. It is only when you can ... AKIROQ BROST There comes a time when you look into the mirror and you realize that what you see is all that you w... TENNESSEE WILLIAMS There are two things in life you cannot choose. The first is your enemies; the second your family. S... CARLOS RUIZ ZAFóN The hardest part of letting go is the "uncertainty"--when you are afraid that the moment you let go ... SHANNON L. ALDER Now is the time when you see people which you know... but they start ignoring you... and how do you ... DEYTH BANGER If at the one moment in your life when the chance of something transcendental is offered to you, if ... SEBASTIAN FAULKS If you don't love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have... DALAI LAMA When you affirm your own rightness in the universe, then you co-operate with others easily and autom... 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ALDER Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their ... SHANNON L. ALDER The moon will guide you through the night with her brightness, but she will always dwell in the dark... SHANNON L. ALDER Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid... SHANNON L. ALDER No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others. SHANNON L. ALDER The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself. SHANNON L. ALDER Fear is to begin with the end in mind. There is no end. Life is eternal. Live life knowing that the ... SHANNON L. ALDER A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that firs... SHANNON L. ALDER It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one per... SHANNON L. ALDER The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow. SHANNON L. ALDER Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured b... SHANNON L. ALDER The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go. SHANNON L. ALDER When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to... SHANNON L. ALDER Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the qu... SHANNON L. ALDER Empowered Women 101: If they made you an option you will always be an option vs. the person they rea... SHANNON L. ALDER You can't compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in ... SHANNON L. ALDER Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. It's like sitting in a boat and neith... SHANNON L. ALDER People that have been consistently hurt by others in life will only see the one time you hurt them a... SHANNON L. ALDER victim noun \ˈvik-təm\ 1. The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder... SHANNON L. ALDER Feelings are something you have; not something you are. SHANNON L. ALDER The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to respect the woman that gave birth to his c... SHANNON L. ALDER A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence. SHANNON L. ALDER Perspective is as simple as answering this question: If I had 5 months to live would I experience th... SHANNON L. ALDER Whenever you can’t balance what you see with what you believe you have conflict. SHANNON L. ALDER Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not knowing the real truth, and when you fin... SHANNON L. ALDER Do not conform to seek the seekers, but leave the leavers. Wisdom comes from facing what you do not ... SHANNON L. ALDER Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-e... SHANNON L. ALDER Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows ... SHANNON L. ALDER Regardless of your faith, you can never escape uncertainty. SHANNON L. ALDER Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The ... SHANNON L. ALDER The only person that should wear your ring is the one person that would never… 1... SHANNON L. ALDER Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it. SHANNON L. ALDER It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the woman that holds the keys t... SHANNON L. ALDER When I was a child, an angel came to say, A true friend is coming my warrior to sweep you away,... SHANNON L. ALDER When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of "second chances". Their eulogy is a reminder t... SHANNON L. ALDER One of the most powerful lessons in life is to recognize that no one can give you power, and many pe... SHANNON L. ALDER Her wounds brought her a great source of power because they lived in the same place as her heart. SHANNON L. ALDER You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows. SHANNON L. ALDER Your most important “want” should be the one you can control! SHANNON L. ALDER If he emotionally cheated on you remember this before you take him back. It was a choice to do it an... SHANNON L. ALDER The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling the... SHANNON L. ALDER A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a woman’s reputation and spirit, in order to... SHANNON L. ALDER Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading the... SHANNON L. ALDER I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually,... 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