By experimenting with sympathetic joy, we break from the constricted world of individual struggle and see that joy exists in more places than we have yet imagined.

The more we identify and acknowledge moments when we’re unable to share in someone else’s pleasure and ask ourselves whether another person’s happiness truly jeopardizes our own, the more we pave the way for experiencing sympathetic joy

These are times when sympathetic joy comes naturally, but in a complex relationship the heart may not leap up so easily.

To celebrate someone else’s life, we need to find a way to look at it straight on, not from above with judgment or from below with envy.

The more we practice sympathetic joy, the more we come to realize that the happiness we share with others is inseparable from our own happiness.

Sympathetic joy is a practice. It takes time and effort to free ourselves of the scarcity story that most of us have learned along the way, the idea that happiness is a competition, and that someone else is grabbing all the joy.