Shannon L. Alder quote: "Empowered Women 101: If they made you an option you will always be an option vs. the person they really wanted. Don't ever settle for someone that makes you go through hell only to stay with you because they don't have the confidence to go get what they really want. Fear will always follow your rules when they know they don't have options that make them stay comfortable. You won't grow real love in this type of a relationship. You will water weeds and call it a garden."

God is going to send you someone that will rescue you. Then one day you will rescue them in return a...
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I will never accept life for what it is. I don't need an easy life. My road was meant to be hard bec...
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The only people you have to look out for in life are the people that don't care about anything or an...
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Naive people tend to generalize people as—-good, bad, kind, or evil based on their actions. Howeve...
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Empowered Women 101: If he’s with you, it’s a given that he finds you attractive. Don’t talk h...
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What if you were wrong? What if everything you ever believed was a lie? What if you missed your oppo...
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And I was your moon because I shined brighter than any other star in your universe and you were my d...
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An open Facebook page is simply a psychiatric dry erase board that screams, “Look at me. I am inse...
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Never annoy an inspirational author or you will become the poison in her pen and the villian in ever...
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Chasing a man is not winning. The only thing you win is the loss of your dignity. Confidence is know...
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Before you call yourself a Christian, Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu or any other theology, learn to be hum...
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Being different is a revolving door in your life where secure people enter and insecure exit.
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One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being you...
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I love you. I hate you. I like you. I hate you. I love you. I think you’re stupid. I think you’r...
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They will hate you if you are beautiful. They will hate you if you are successful. They will hate yo...
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A best friend is the only one that walks into your life when the world has walked out.
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Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a f...
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You can't fight mental health bias if you label people based on a lists of symptoms and you have no ...
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The need for control always comes from someone that has lost it.
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When you blame others, what you are really saying is what is inside of you can’t be fixed, so you ...
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Beauty is not who you are on the outside, it is the wisdom and time you gave away to save another st...
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Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stori...
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Every broken heart has screamed at one time or another: Why can't you see who I truly am?
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If you have feelings for someone, let them know. It doesn’t matter if they can be in your life or ...
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There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simp...
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Sometimes, you will go through awful trials in your life and then a miracle happens--God heals you. ...
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Some of the most beautiful things worth having in your life come wrapped in a crown of thorns.
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One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone.
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Staying silent is like a slow growing cancer to the soul and a trait of a true coward. There is noth...
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If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, ...
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Cruel people offer pity when they no longer feel threatened. However, kind people offer compassion a...
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A coward talks to everyone but YOU.
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The definition of hell is two people in a relationship that is starved for love and unable to fulfil...
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You always had it in you to create miracles, but you forgot that it required you to do the opposite ...
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It is the apathetic person that sees the cause while the charitable person sees the need.
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I write to find strength.
I write to become the person that hides inside me.
I write to li...
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Soul connections are not often found and are worth every bit of fight left in you to keep.
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Dear Child,

Sometimes on your travel through hell, you meet people that think they are i...
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The more you talk about it, rehash it, rethink it, cross analyze it, debate it, respond to it, get p...
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There will always be someone willing to hurt you, put you down, gossip about you, belittle your acco...
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My father taught me that you can you read a hundred books on wisdom and write a hundred books on wis...
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Anger, resentment and jealousy doesn't change the heart of others-- it only changes yours.
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I could crawl inside the lyrics and know each note intimately. They would claw at my soul, until I c...
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Sensitive people care when the world doesn't because we understand waiting to be rescued and no one ...
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The most introspective of souls are often those that have been hurt the most.
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There is no perfection, only beautiful versions of brokenness.
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Often those that criticise others reveal what he himself lacks.
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It is not until you change your identity to match your life blueprint that you will understand why e...
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The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you...
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Great leaders get people to admit the truth because they know that dreams are buried under the lies ...
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To love someone with all of your heart requires reaching them where they are with the only words the...
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When you see people only as personalities, rather than souls with life missions to fulfill, you fore...
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The true definition of mental illness is when the majority of your time is spent in the past or futu...
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Most misunderstandings in the world could be avoided if people would simply take the time to ask, "W...
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It is easier to tell a person what life is not, rather than to tell them what it is. A child underst...
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If you want to discover the true character of a person, you have only to observe what they are passi...
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Insanity is everyone expecting you not to fall apart when you find out everything you believed in wa...
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The most confused you will ever get is when you try to convince your heart and spirit of something y...
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Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone.
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People that have trust issues only need to look in the mirror. There they will meet the one person t...
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If you want to know if someone was meant to be in your future, then remove all the worldly things ab...
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Sometimes the simplest solution out of conflict is becoming someone’s friend, instead of saying go...
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A woman or man of value doesn’t love you because of what he or she wants you to be or do for them....
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Sensitive people usually love deeply and hate deeply. They don't know any other way to live than by ...
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Some stories have to be written because no one would believe the absurdity of it all.
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I am not perfect, but if I looked perfect to everyone I must have been rocking imperfect perfectly t...
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Stupidity is to have amnesia over your own faults when the person you hate makes theirs.
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A true gentleman is one that apologizes anyways, even though he has not offended a lady intentionall...
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Real women fight for something, other than their own emotions.
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Your strength will be found when you stop struggling with yourself, instead of thinking everyone is ...
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The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like ...
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Chasing a person doesn’t give you value or build values in you. You earn your value by chasing mor...
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If a man, who says he loves you, won’t tell you the details of a private conversation between him ...
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Strength of character comes from being hit by stray verbal stones, while protecting discarded cipher...
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When religious people take the stance that they don’t owe anyone that is hurting closure or answer...
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True confidence is not about what you take from someone to restore yourself, but what you give back ...
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Diversity of character is due to the unequal time given to values. Only through each other will we s...
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There comes a time in your life when you can no longer put off choosing. You have to choose one path...
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Don’t ever stray from yourself, in order to be close to someone that doesn’t have the courtesy t...
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A wise woman knows when to stay silent. However, a wiser woman of faith knows that sometimes words c...
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Your words will either give you joy or give you sorrow, but if they were spoken without regret, they...
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When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, y...
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A very unwise man once said, “He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand...
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Never pray to be a better slave when God is trying to get you out of your situation.
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Arrogance is someone claiming to have come to Christ, but they won't spend more than five minutes li...
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Hide yourself in God, so when a man wants to find you he will have to go there first.
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When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will hav...
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When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on h...
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Often people that settle in life are those that only do what they can with what they have and where ...
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I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to ...
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Your tears are never invisible---there is always an insecure woman that lights up when you point the...
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Mental illness is not a fraternity or a social club for like minds. It is its own religion to each p...
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You might lose battles in your life time. However, every person that stands bravely on the side of j...
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I was never weighed down by beauty in my lifetime. However, I was beaten down by the sad fears of my...
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Realize that narcissists have an addiction disorder. They are strongly addicted to feeling significa...
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If you hold onto a man hoping someone else won't get them you have learned how to be desperate, not ...
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You will never let go of the past by ignoring the most painful thing the person you loved has done t...
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Often the inspiration to write music comes from the voices in your head. You’re not crazy. Just be...
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It isn't what you will do for your children that makes you a great mother or father. It is what you ...
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Relationships with negative people are simply tedious encounters with porcupines. You don’t have t...
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Empowered Women 101: Only an insecure woman with control issues will look outside her relationship a...
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Empowered Women 101: A man doesn't have to put down other women to prove his love for you. In fact, ...
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Love may be blind but jealousy has 20-20 vision.
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People that don't know what they are worth will always see their capture's wings, but never their ta...
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I am convinced that the jealous, the angry, the bitter and the egotistical are the first to race to ...
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Love has a way of making the sane insane and the insane normal.
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People's behaviors are messages, not a diagnosis because I can no longer discern the world's version...
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Often a woman that doesn’t have any business being in a fight is there because their ego thinks it...
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Hypocrisy
/hi pakrise/ noun

1. The moment you tell someone it is not important to be...
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Narcissistic Supply

You get discarded as supply for one of two reason: They find you too ...
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Narcissists will never tell you the truth. They live with the fear of abandonment and can't deal wit...
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The daggers of silence last longer than anything ever spoken.
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Often people that say they “don’t care” actually do. The moment they discuss you with their fr...
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Insecure people often falsify the past, in order to make the future pure.
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Women of dignity know when to stop expecting loyalty when he won't even give you honesty.
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Sometimes the truth is so deep that it takes someone with the same depth to see it, while others can...
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A person that doesn't know their worth will never know yours. Therefore, the longer you hang onto ho...
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Bitter people are not interested in what you say, but what you hide.
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The only people that can't handle the truth are those that suffer so much anxiety that they will liv...
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It is not through fighting the opposition that will win you dignity. It is when you fight the fear i...
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Bullies will knock you to your knees then tell you to get up and fight. Stay on your knees because G...
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Nobody knows what God's plan is for your life, but a whole lot of people will guess for you if you l...
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He said, “If God lived on Earth people would stalk his Facebook page and leave nasty comments on h...
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A wise woman protects her kids. A wiser woman hangs out with police officers, retired FBI agents and...
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If you are reading this then you have wasted another day of your life day dreaming, rather than plan...
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It is not the monsters we should be afraid of; it is the people that don't recognize the same monste...
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You can't always expect people to apply your wisdom when they didn't use wisdom before they found th...
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The moment you have to recruit people to put another person down, in order to convince someone of yo...
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Words don’t have the power to hurt you, unless that person meant more to you than you are willing ...
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You are not an option, a choice or a soft place to land after a long battle. You were meant to be th...
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You will know if you are on the right path when God directs your choices, not your spouse or signifi...
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When dealing with critics always remember this: Critics judge things based on what is outside of the...
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If you were born with the ability to change someone’s perspective or emotions, never waste that gi...
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I rather be a stupid person wanting clarification and answers, in order to be wiser, than be a stupi...
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You might not get the apology you deserve. You might not get answers to explain the actions of other...
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It is the subtle things in life that you have to look for because the deepest love speaks at a whisp...
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Judgement of others and ourselves always comes from a place of fear. It is fear that keeps us from l...
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Vulnerability gives us freedom, power and connects us to a network of injured souls. It is through t...
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People often tell themselves lies, in order to reach what they consider acceptance in difficult situ...
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Some will wear masks their entire life because they care about what other people think, while others...
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You will never change, unless you are honest with yourself or you are forced to be authentic by some...
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Anyone can possess, anyone can profess, but it is an altogether different thing to confess.
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The only difference between you and the person you admire is their perspective on life.
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The secret to your purpose is to find what you feel is important, and not pursue what others would t...
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Confidence is knowing who you are and not changing it a bit because of someone’s version of realit...
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When you are offered a miracle take it. Otherwise, show God your tail so he can move on and give it ...
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Behind every angry soul is a wounded child that just wanted you to love them for who they are.
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The man that is meant to love you will have a million questions about you, but none will ever ask yo...
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Every relationship that has hit a crossroads has asked, “What is it that you want from me?
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There are only two ways to live your life. One as if all that matters is to have someone love and ac...
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See it for what it is and own it, rather than rethink it so you don't have to deal with the trauma o...
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Sometimes, we expect life to work a certain way and when it doesn’t we blame others or see it as a...
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True saddness is when someone still thinks your the same person after all these years. They brand yo...
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Everyone loses their class when they travel through hell, but only a few will regain it if they rema...
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Don't waste your time trying to provide people with proof of deceit, in order to keep their love, wi...
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God told us to love everyone. However, when you don’t like someone then you need to walk away and ...
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Humility is not a one time lesson that comes when you have lost everything. It is a daily reminder o...
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Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their ...
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The moon will guide you through the night with her brightness, but she will always dwell in the dark...
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Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid...
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No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others.
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The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself.
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Fear is to begin with the end in mind. There is no end. Life is eternal. Live life knowing that the ...
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A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that firs...
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It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one per...
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The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow.
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Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured b...
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The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go.
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When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to...
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Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the qu...
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You can't compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in ...
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Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. It's like sitting in a boat and neith...
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People that have been consistently hurt by others in life will only see the one time you hurt them a...
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victim
noun \ˈvik-təm\

1. The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder...
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Feelings are something you have; not something you are.
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The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to respect the woman that gave birth to his c...
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A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence.
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Perspective is as simple as answering this question: If I had 5 months to live would I experience th...
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Whenever you can’t balance what you see with what you believe you have conflict.
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Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not knowing the real truth, and when you fin...
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Do not conform to seek the seekers, but leave the leavers. Wisdom comes from facing what you do not ...
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Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-e...
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Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows ...
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Regardless of your faith, you can never escape uncertainty.
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Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The ...
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The only person that should wear your ring is the one person that would never…

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Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it.
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It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the woman that holds the keys t...
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When I was a child, an angel came to say,
A true friend is coming my warrior to sweep you away,...
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When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of "second chances". Their eulogy is a reminder t...
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One of the most powerful lessons in life is to recognize that no one can give you power, and many pe...
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Her wounds brought her a great source of power because they lived in the same place as her heart.
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You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows.
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Your most important “want” should be the one you can control!
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If he emotionally cheated on you remember this before you take him back. It was a choice to do it an...
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The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling the...
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A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a woman’s reputation and spirit, in order to...
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Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading the...
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I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually,...
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Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases some...
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