Forgiveness is a process, an admittedly difficult one that often can feel like a rigorous spiritual practice.

Telling the story, acknowledging what has happened and how you feel, is often a necessary part of forgiveness.

We cannot instantaneously force ourselves to forgive—and forgiveness happens at a different pace for everyone and is dependent on the particulars of any given situation.

There are an incalculable—even infinite—number of situations in which we can practice forgiveness.

Expecting it to be a singular action—motivated by the sheer imperative to move on and forget—can be more damaging than the original feelings of anger.

Accepting forgiveness as pluralistic and as an ongoing, individualized process opens us up to realize the role that our own needs play in conflict resolution.

Forgiveness is a personal process that doesn’t depend on us having direct contact with the people who have hurt us.

The combination of realizing our distinctiveness along with our unity is seeing interdependence.