I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was

And our dreams are who we are

Every single one of us can do things that no one else can, love things that no one else can love...We are like violins. We can be used for doorstops, or we can make music. You know what to do.

How can families harm us when they love us? Very easily, unfortunately. Most of us overlook one important fact when we think love is enough: Love and respect aren't the same thing.

Love is fusion. As a baby, you belong to your parents, you're extension of them.

Respect is differentiation: you belong to yourself, and you're an extension of no one.

Differentiation is essential for happiness of adults.

Every single one of us can do things that no one else can do -- can love things that no one else can love. We are like violins. We can be used for doorstops, or we can make music. You know what to do.

It's essential to distinguish between events that are really beyond your control and events you caused yourself.