I didn't write about my mother much in the third year after she died. I was still trying to get my argument straight: When her friends or our relatives wondered why I was still so hard on her, I could really lay out the case for what it had been like to be raised by someone who had loathed herself, her husband, even her own name.
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ANNE LAMOTT We can see Spirit made visible when people are kind to one another, especially when it's a really bu... ANNE LAMOTT Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort, and letting it be there until some l... ANNE LAMOTT Her purse was a weight, ballast; it tethered her to the earth as her mind floated away. ANNE LAMOTT ... one of the immutable laws of being human is that the people who show up are the right people. [p... ANNE LAMOTT But you don't always get what you want;,you get what you get ANNE LAMOTT What you're looking for is already inside you. You've heard this before, but the holy thing inside y... ANNE LAMOTT If you haven't already, you will lose someone you can't live without, and your heart will be badly b... ANNE LAMOTT ... everyone has come to understand that unconditional love is a reality, but with as shelf life of ... ANNE LAMOTT When we did art with the kids, the demons would lie down. ANNE LAMOTT Age has given me what I was looking for my entire life - it has given me me . It has provide... ANNE LAMOTT You want to protect your child from pain, and what you get instead is life, and grace; and though th... ANNE LAMOTT Rule 1: When all else fails, follow instructions. And Rule 2: Don't be an asshole. ANNE LAMOTT Rest and laughter are the most spiritual and subversive acts of all. Laugh, rest, slow down. ANNE LAMOTT I'm here to be me, which is taking a great deal longer than I had hoped. ANNE LAMOTT This is one thing they forget to mention in most child-rearing books, that at times you will just lo... ANNE LAMOTT Certainty is missing the point entirely. ANNE LAMOTT Help" is a prayer that is always answered. It doesn't matter how you pray--with your head bowed in s... ANNE LAMOTT Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You're done. It doesn't necessar... ANNE LAMOTT Hope is not about proving anything. It's about choosing to believe this one thing, that love is bigg... ANNE LAMOTT A good marriage is where both people feel like they're getting the better end of the deal. ANNE LAMOTT Underneath all things means that beneath the floorboards, in the depths, in the spaces between the p... ANNE LAMOTT These are the words I want on my gravestone: that I was a helper, and that I danced." ANNE LAMOTT I still encourage anyone who feels at all compelled to write to do so. I just try to warn people who... ANNE LAMOTT But how?" my students ask. "How do you actually do it?" You sit down, I say. You try to sit do... ANNE LAMOTT I do not understand the mystery of grace -- only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us... ANNE LAMOTT Your problem is how you are going to spend this one odd and precious life you have been issued. Whet... ANNE LAMOTT I got a lot of things that society had promised would make me whole and fulfilled - all the things t... ANNE LAMOTT رفض ما دون الكمال ، ينطوي على كثير من الظلم والعداء للإ�... ANNE LAMOTT I like the desert for short periods of time, from inside a car, with the windows rolled up, and the ... ANNE LAMOTT When I was a kid, our family used to watch 'Bonanza.' I really liked having a Sunday night T... ANNE LAMOTT I used to love to untangle chains when I was a child. I had thin, busy fingers, and I never gave up.... ANNE LAMOTT A good marriage is supposed to be one where each spouse secretly thinks he or she got the better dea... ANNE LAMOTT See how the fearful chandelier Trembles above you Each time you open your mouth To sing. Sing. —DO... ANNE LAMOTT After a while the middle-aged person who lives in her head begins to talk to her soul, the kid. ANNE LAMOTT Perfectionism means that you try not to leave so much mess to clean up. But clutter and mess show us... ANNE LAMOTT