I do think taking the 20s to take the most chances you can is important, because you're not going to hurt anyone else during that time. And if you do have a partner, you need a couple years to rehearse that relationship.

If you're the person living closest to the parent who's going to need help, and you take on the whole role of primary caregiver, you can be pretty sure your sibling who lives farthest away is going to call you and say, 'You don't know what you're doing.' Because they're not on the spot, and they probably feel guilty.

We really only have two choices. Play it safe, or take a chance. For me, pulling back because of fear has always made me feel worse.

When you're taking chances, you know it's not going to please everybody.

I never wanted to hurt anyone else, most of all my family and my kids.

People in grief need someone to walk with them without judging them.