I don't think anything changes until ideas change. The usual American viewpoint is to believe that something is wrong with the person.

We can't change anything until we get some fresh ideas, until we begin to see things differently.

If you are still being hurt by an event that happened to you at twelve, it is the thought that is hurting you now. -James Hillman.

If a person doesn't change, there's something really wrong with him.

There are some ideas so wrong that only a very intelligent person could believe in them.

Psychotherapy theory turns it all on you: you are the one who is wrong. If a kid is having trouble or is discouraged, the problem is not just inside the kid; it's also in the system, the society.