I think that hate is a feeling that can only exist where there is no understanding.

Hate is a thing, a feeling, that can only exist where there is no understanding.

Nobody sees anybody truly but all through the flaws of their own egos. That is the way we all see each other in life."

[As quoted in Elia Kazan's autobiography, A Life (1988)]

George feels that, even if all this double talk hasn't brought them any closer to understanding each other, the not-understanding, the readiness to remain at cross-purposes, is in itself a kind of intimacy.

When my daughter looks at me, she sees a small old lady. That is because she sees only with her outside eyes. She has no chuming , no inside knowing of things. If she had chuming, she would see a tiger lady. And she would have careful fear.

And that might just be the root of the problem: we’re all afraid of each other.