I've thought for years, sometimes against my will, about what kind of son I'm supposed to be, what's expected. Being Korean, that's a particularly charged question. Is your duty to your culture or to your parent? Is your life your own, or the second half of your parents' life? Who owns your life?

You didn't have a choice about the parents you inherited, but you do have a choice about the kind of parent you will be.

We played some great rugby particularly in the second half. We now have a top four place as our target.

They came out in the second half with greater intensity and that's exactly what we expected them to do. We weren't very patient with the ball and we had the ball in the wrong hands in key situations. It also didn't help us that David (Wegner) had four fouls. We needed him in those situations and we weren't able to use him tonight.

For women in my family, in Korean culture, women are really valued in their youth, and then when they get older, it's like they almost become irrelevant.

If a kid has a passion, parents will go to any extreme. It's amazing the things parents will do for their kids.