If I want to "be with" a woman and she with me, why can't we just agree to be together and that's that? Why all of the vows, rings, stigma, government involvement and harsh rules? Marriage is a business. It's not about love or emotional connection...it's about feeling like you can rightfully own another person.

In other words (if I may paraphrase), why isn't love enough? Why do people have to make commitments in front of (take your pick) the state, family, friends, the community, and so forth?

why isn't love enough?

joseph ejiro