If your spouse offends you, do you quickly retaliate,

no one enjoys being around a rude person.

He who is slow to anger has great understanding,

So when it’s all said and done, the romance, intimacy, and enjoyment of your marriage is greatly dependent upon your mutual commitment to allow no unforgiveness to exist between the two of you. Great marriages are not produced by people who never hurt each other, only by people who daily choose to keep “no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:5).

I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. (Song of Solomon 6:3)

Your greater loyalty must shift from your parents to your spouse. It must also shift away from old flames and old friends to your mate. Everyone else must take a back seat and become properly emotionally distanced enough to give your union room to bloom. For without “leaving,” you cannot do the “cleaving” you need, the joining of your hearts that’s required to experience oneness.