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Alain de Botton
Related I like to open for a band as it brings on sort of a challenge and it makes things more interesting. ... KELLY JONES We are far from perfect but willing to be different. CRAIG GROESCHEL The Biggest Threat to our Democracy, Freedoms and Future is Leadership that fosters and Appeases the... MICHAEL HARRIS How should I know?" said Alice, surprised at her own courage. "It's no business of mine." The Q... LEWIS CARROLL As far back as history records people thinking, thinking people
have been befuddled by the mysteries... LEWIS N. ROE If we all look at life we think how nice, then we look at death and everybody goes oh you can say th... GARY F EVANS... The unfortunate thing is that, sometimes, we slip, but, fortunately, consciously or unconsciously, w... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH Each of us views life through a different lens. What we think is colored by the baggage we carry, an... LAURIE BUCHANAN, PHD When we are “time traveling”, we may trip over problems from the past which distort our memory. ... ERIK PEVERNAGIE The scientific method gives us
information by testing and repeating observable things so that we
can... LEWIS N. ROE We have come to look at our planet as a resource for our species, which is funny when you think that... MARSTON BATES 35. God is entitled to a portion of our income—not because He needs it but because we need to give... JAMES C. DOBSON Food Allergies Are Not Due to Food, Rather Are Due to the Constant Contamination of That Food That Y... THEHEALTHFOODGURU We are pleased that Project Lexus has visited our community on several occasions and we hope they co... JOANNE LEWIS Never forget that when we are dealing with any pleasure in its healthy and normal and satisfying for... C.S. LEWIS The ability to experience bliss requires the gift of attentive awareness, curiosity, and constant le... KILROY J. OLDSTER We have become disconnected from our true selves, and naturally, this has produced a deep sense of l... JOSEPH P. KAUFFMAN Orion is above the horizon now, and near it Jupiter, brighter than it will ever be ... But i expect ... THOMAS HARRIS We are too much accustomed to attribute to a single cause that which is the product of several, and ... MARCUS AURELIUS In the journey of life, certain paths may seem to be leading nowhere because of a mountain or hill o... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH I find that because of modern technological evolution and our global economy, and as a result of the... DALAI LAMA Clay in the hands of a good potter suffers so many good turns, but in the end, we see its real and t... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH Most of us think we're too busy or too important to rest for a day. CRAIG GROESCHEL Friendship is a double-edged sword one side it can be great and true but the other side it spells be... GARY F EVANS... We mourn the blossoms of May because they are to wither; but we know that May is one day to have its... HENRY JOHN NEWMAN We spend most of our lives looking for reassurance from others until we find that others are looking... LUIGINA SGARRO From the development of our world and its ability to hold life, to being born into a species that ha... WILLIAM JOHN SHERMAN WALSH III In our wildest aberrations we dream of an equilibrium we have left behind and which we naively expec... ALBERT CAMUS Most students have thoughts about emigrating to Israel. A significant number go on aliyah. We are pr... NORMAN LAMM Thoughts come into our minds by avenues which we never left open, and thoughts go out of our minds t... RALPH WALDO EMERSON We should stop trying to find differences between one another, and focus on our similarities. BEN OAK The best stories come from deep within us and are of us. Either our inner child comes out to play an... JUDITH KOHNEN Empathy is the new measurement of everything. It doesn't matter what religion you have, what God you... C. JOYBELL C. May I never neither turn left nor turn right in my journey of life, but may I go straight to Christ ... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH While we understand that what were dealing with is a long term condition that will have to be deal... DAN FOGELBERG Our Yahoo! users want to access our services from all of their connected devices. Together with RIM,... MARCO BOERRIES Every dollar of tax imposed on our exchanges in the shape of duties impairs, to that extent, our cap... JOHN C. CALHOUN I am often asked how it is that I am able to value people to such a deep degree. Apparently, I exhib... C. JOYBELL C. A tree has roots in the soil yet reaches to the sky. It tells us that in order to aspire we need to ... WANGARI MAATHAI We spend most of our childhood playing, we spend most of our adulthood trying to find time to play a... CARL WHITE I thank God for schools that are serious about the gospel of Jesus Christ. They are vital to perpetu... JAMES C. DOBSON Writing is a voice that calls us from dreams, that peeks out of the corner of our eyes when we think... JUDY COLLINS When we start being too impressed by the results of our work, we slowly come to the erroneous convic... HENRI J.M. NOUWEN Two things are to be remembered: that a man whose opinions and theories are worth studying may be pr... BERTRAND RUSSELL Founders never leave our memories for they leave indelible footprints on our minds. They give us the... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH When looking for evidence that something exists, it's silly
to start by assuming that it is impossib... LEWIS N. ROE Using the scientific knowledge that we
currently possess, we can take simple logical steps, backed b... LEWIS N. ROE I believe that investing in our children's development from the earliest age is the single most ... JAY WEATHERILL But in the machine of today we forget that motors are whirring: the motor, finally, has come to fulf... ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPéRY There is a kind of sleep that steals upon us sometimes, which, while it holds the body prisoner, doe... CHARLES DICKENS If we cannot find our way to a time when most of us are willing to admit that, at the very least, we... SAM HARRIS If one looks at all closely at the middle of our own century, the events that occupy us, our customs... JEAN LE ROND D'ALEMBERT Most of all, we remain focused on our Rock that never moves. CRAIG GROESCHEL We project based on where we our in our life and our beliefs at that moment; however, when we shift ... WILIAM CONSTANTINE God has lent us the earth for our life; it is a great entail. It belongs as much to those who are to... JOHN RUSKIN Lack of communication has a way of clipping our wings, which keeps us from flying. When things are l... SHANNON L. ALDER While we understand that what we’re dealing with is a long term condition that will have to be dea... DAN FOGELBERG The woman who first gives life, light, and form to our shadowy conceptions of beauty, fills a void i... WILKIE COLLINS Our new strategic plan emphasizes the importance of providing access to records anytime, anywhere. T... ALLEN WEINSTEIN We all know, from what we experience with and within ourselves, that our conscious acts spring from ... ALBERT EINSTEIN A couple of customers interrupted [...] who wanted to know if we had some YA book about ants and ali... SHAUN DAVID HUTCHINSON Our Father, who has set a restlessness in our hearts and made us all seekers after that which we can... ELEANOR ROOSEVELT Greg has an unparalleled track record of helping services-based technology companies grow into marke... ARTHUR MESHER Commemoration of Peter Chanel, Religious, Missionary in the South Pacific, Martyr, 1841 We can re... DAG HAMMARSKJÖLD In reality, we are still children. We want to find a playmate for our thoughts and feelings. WILHELM STEKEL On rare occasion we are granted the gift of seeing how far we have come; just how much we have heale... RENAE A. SAUTER The composition of this book has been for the author a long struggle of escape, and so must the read... JOHN MAYNARD KEYNES That's why we seize the moment try to freeze it and own it, squeeze it and hold it. EMINEM Art for art's sake? I should think so, and more so than ever at the present time. It is the one orde... E. M. FORSTER The single most important human insight to be gained from this way of comparing societies is perhaps... THOMAS HYLLAND ERIKSEN We laugh at the efforts of the musk deer to find the source of the scent which comes from itself and... RAMAKRISHNA Our feelings of anxiety are genuine but confused signals that something is amiss, and so need to be ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Because they are so emphatically there, and so inconvertibly interior, it is almost inevitable that ... EUGENE H. PETERSON When our eyes are graced with wonder, the world reveals its wonders to us. There are people who see ... JOHN O'DONOHUE That which should distinguish the suffering of believers from unbelievers is the confidence that our... JERRY BRIDGES It's a lie to think that you are not good enough. It's a lie to think that you are not beautiful. It... DISON ARNIBAL We are humiliated by what is powerful and mean, but awed by what is powerful and noble. ALAIN DE BOTTON One of the most important things I have found is that no one
school of thought has all of the answer... LEWIS N. ROE All ideas come from sensation or reflection.--Let us then suppose the mind to be, as we say, white p... JOHN LOCKE There were hints and intimations of the shape of things to come. DEXTER PALMER In our world, in which religious images are losing their meaning, in which our customs are getting m... ANTONI TAPIES I liked myths. They weren't adult stories and they weren't children's stories. They were better than... NEIL GAIMAN We are in fact convinced that if we are ever to have pure knowledge of anything, we must get rid of ... SOCRATES The earth is an arena of champions. We are all champions. We all did overcome millions of potential ... ERNEST AGYEMANG YEBOAH This has increased with the tremendous technological advances in communications. We have a vast new ... ALBERT BANDURA The answer isn't more time but a greater awareness of the time we have. CRAIG GROESCHEL The truth of Self is our strongest energy on earth and has the ability to erase the past, the past t... MARTHA CHAR LOVE And so, it is not our own life that we live, but the lives of the dead, and the soul that dwells wit... OSCAR WILDE Which, autocracy or democracy, is really better suited to modern China? If we base our judgment upon... SUN YAT-SEN This is an entirely new and unexpected discovery. It has allowed us to glimpse the molecular strateg... BRAD BERNSTEIN We have already had an amazing amount of support come from the community, but the only way our dream... JO VANDVER I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both v... FREDERICK BUECHNER Each time we surrender, we find once more that the desperation that drives us to our knees fuels the... NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS The SAP system has afforded us a lot of visibility and access to information that we didn't have bef... EVERETT TUCKER We learn that our spirit is not apart from us; it is a part of us. We gain awareness of the exact na... NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS Often when you think you're at the end of something, you're at the beginning of something else. I've... FRED ROGERS In those moments of unnaming when we have lost ourselves, we must remember to return to our past red... DAN B. ALLENDER To commit to the present moment is to accept our inability to control the future and accept that man... FORREST CURRAN They say, and I have reason to believe, that in times of intellectual laziness we are at our most ge... LAMPOONTOP'S 1925 AUTOBIOGRAPHICA They say, and I have reason to believe, that in times of intellectual laziness we are at our most ge... LAMPOONTOP'S 1925 AUTOBIOGRAPHICA
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ALAIN DE BOTTON To be loved by someone is to realize how much they share the same needs that lie at the heart of our... ALAIN DE BOTTON We fall in love because we long to escape from ourselves with someone as beautiful, intelligent, and... ALAIN DE BOTTON Being content is perhaps no less easy than playing the violin well: and requires no less practice. ALAIN DE BOTTON A storyteller who provided us with such a profusion of details would rapidly grow maddening. Unfortu... ALAIN DE BOTTON We used to build temples, and museums are about as close as secular society dares to go in facing up... ALAIN DE BOTTON The Anxiety of Sunday afternoon: your unlived lives and infinite possibility pressing upon the const... ALAIN DE BOTTON Blessed with riches and possibilities far beyond anything imagined by ancestors who tilled the unpre... ALAIN DE BOTTON We need a home in the psychological sense as much as we need one in the physical: to compensate for ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Even if our loved ones have assured us that they will be busy at work, even if they told us they hat... ALAIN DE BOTTON You normally have to be bashed about a bit by life to see the point of daffodils, sunsets and uneven... ALAIN DE BOTTON What a peculiar civilisation this was: inordinately rich, yet inclined to accrue its wealth through ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Despite the best efforts of critics and the hopes of authors, our tastes in books are probably as in... ALAIN DE BOTTON We would like to go and see the field that Millet…shows us in his Springtime, we would like Claude... ALAIN DE BOTTON Our feelings of anxiety are genuine but confused signals that something is amiss, and so need to be ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Paying tax should be framed as a glorious civic duty worthy of gratitude - not a punishment for maki... ALAIN DE BOTTON It was no longer her absence that wounded me, but my growing indifference to it. Forgetting, however... ALAIN DE BOTTON Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we c... ALAIN DE BOTTON Every fall into love involves the triumph of hope over self-knowledge. We fall in love hoping we won... ALAIN DE BOTTON Nature puts us all in our places. Being made to feel small isn't something we welcome when it's done... ALAIN DE BOTTON in Flaubert’s eyes, that only entirely illiterate and uneducated Frenchmen now stood a chance of b... ALAIN DE BOTTON A clean conscience is the preserve of those without sufficient imagination. ALAIN DE BOTTON In the past, Flaubert implied, idiots had had no clue as to what the carbon structure of diamonds wa... ALAIN DE BOTTON Never too late to learn some embarrassingly basic, stupidly obvious things about oneself. ALAIN DE BOTTON But we would do well to meditate daily, rather as the religious do on their God, on the 9.5 trillion... ALAIN DE BOTTON To a shameful extent, the charm of marriage boils down to how unpleasant it is to be alone. This isn... ALAIN DE BOTTON One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on. ALAIN DE BOTTON What kills us isn't one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can't turn down for fear of ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Booksellers are the most valuable destination for the lonely, given the numbers of books written bec... ALAIN DE BOTTON It is precisely when we hear little from our partner which frightens, shocks, or sickens us that we ... ALAIN DE BOTTON Unrequited love may be painful, but it is safely painful, because it does not involve inflicting dam... ALAIN DE BOTTON It's clear to me that there is no good reason for many philosophy books to sound as complicated as t... ALAIN DE BOTTON Jarenlang kwam ik bij het boodschappen doen langs een huis dat weliswaar een van de lelijkste gebouw... ALAIN DE BOTTON Snobbery exists in all areas of life, not least literary criticism. By snobbery I mean, any method o... ALAIN BOTTON Kant and Hegel are interesting thinkers. But I am happy to insist that they are also terrible writer... ALAIN BOTTON I passionately believe that's it's not just what you say that counts, it's also how you say it - tha... ALAIN BOTTON I am in general a very pessimistic person with an optimistic, day-to-day take on things. The bare fa... ALAIN BOTTON