Just as you go to the gym regularly to keep your body fit, regular couples counseling can keep your relationship fit as well.

Couples counseling gets many couples back together. But not all, and not always. For your own sake and that of your children, however, I recommend it - I almost insist on it - as the first step for anyone unhappy in a relationship.

Going to the gym is great for your body, but it's also great for your mind.

You have to love your body, respect it, and treat it well.

Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist's office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.

You have to be able to center yourself, to let all of your emotions go... Don't ever forget that you play with your soul as well as your body.