Lindsay thought she might feel vulnerable in the hospital, partly because there is this hospital conceptualization of births as a medical emergency. You are on a time table and they want you in and out as quick as possible.

The thought is that together we can make a bigger impact on an organization than we can apart.

Child birth is one of the most natural and ancient things to occur, and the fact that 95 percent (of babies) are delivered in the hospital, and a huge percent are C-sections, is rather telling to our detachment from the process.

We want to do this ourselves in the most comfortable setting we can think of - to be in each moment together and not be persuaded by a hospital's agenda.

I once sent him a song and asked him to mark a cross wherever he thought it was faulty. Brahms returned it untouched, saying "I don't want to make a cemetery of your compositions."

He was upset because he thought I was going there and I did give him my word on that.