Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, the compulsive shopper and the workaholic. The wound may not be as deep and the ache not as excruciating, and it may even be entirely hidden—but it’s there. As we’ll see, the effects of early stress or adverse experiences directly shape both the psychology and the neurobiology of addiction in the brain.


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I don't remember anybody's name. How do you think the 'dahling' thing got started?
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How many husbands have I had? You mean apart from my own?
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I love to put on diamonds and beautiful evening gowns and make my girl-friends upset.
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I never hate a man enough to give him his diamonds back.
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I never hated a man enough to give him his diamonds back.
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You never really know a man until you have divorced him.
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I am a marvelous housekeeper. Every time I leave a man I keep his house.
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