Sometimes, we expect life to work a certain way and when it doesn’t we blame others or see it as a sign, rather than face the pain of the choices we should or shouldn’t have made. Real healing won’t begin until we stop saying, “God prevented this or that.” Often in our attempt to protect ourselves from pain, we leave things to fate and don’t take chances. Or, we don’t work hard enough to keep the blessings we are given. Maybe, we didn't recognize a blessing, until it was too late. Often, it is the lies we tell ourselves that keeps us stuck in a delusion of not being responsible for our lives. We leave it all up to God. The truth is we are not leaves blowing toward our destiny without any control. To believe this is to take away our freedom of choice and that of others. The final stage of grief is acceptance. This can’t be reached through always believing God willed the outcomes in our lives, despite our inaction or actions. To think so is to take the easy escape from our accountability. Sometimes, God has nothing to do with it. Sometimes, we just screwed up and guarded our heart from accepting it, by putting our outcome on God as the reason it turned out the way it did. Faith is a beautiful thing, but without work we can give into a mysticism of destiny that really doesn't teach us lessons or consequences for our actions. Life then becomes a distorted delusion of no accountability with God always to blame for battles we walked away from, won or loss.
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ALDER Your heart’s strength is measured by how hard it holds on. Your self worth and faith is measured b... SHANNON L. ALDER The only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go. SHANNON L. ALDER When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to... SHANNON L. ALDER Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the qu... SHANNON L. ALDER Empowered Women 101: If they made you an option you will always be an option vs. the person they rea... SHANNON L. ALDER You can't compare men or women with mental disorders to the normal expectations of men and women in ... SHANNON L. ALDER Two people with mental issues in a relationship does not work. It's like sitting in a boat and neith... SHANNON L. ALDER People that have been consistently hurt by others in life will only see the one time you hurt them a... SHANNON L. ALDER victim noun \ˈvik-təm\ 1. The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder... SHANNON L. ALDER Feelings are something you have; not something you are. SHANNON L. ALDER The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to respect the woman that gave birth to his c... SHANNON L. ALDER A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence. SHANNON L. ALDER Perspective is as simple as answering this question: If I had 5 months to live would I experience th... SHANNON L. ALDER Whenever you can’t balance what you see with what you believe you have conflict. SHANNON L. ALDER Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not knowing the real truth, and when you fin... SHANNON L. ALDER Do not conform to seek the seekers, but leave the leavers. Wisdom comes from facing what you do not ... SHANNON L. ALDER Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-e... SHANNON L. ALDER Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows ... SHANNON L. ALDER Regardless of your faith, you can never escape uncertainty. SHANNON L. ALDER Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The ... SHANNON L. ALDER The only person that should wear your ring is the one person that would never… 1... SHANNON L. ALDER Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it. SHANNON L. ALDER It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the woman that holds the keys t... SHANNON L. ALDER When I was a child, an angel came to say, A true friend is coming my warrior to sweep you away,... SHANNON L. ALDER When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of "second chances". Their eulogy is a reminder t... SHANNON L. ALDER One of the most powerful lessons in life is to recognize that no one can give you power, and many pe... SHANNON L. ALDER Her wounds brought her a great source of power because they lived in the same place as her heart. SHANNON L. ALDER You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows. SHANNON L. ALDER Your most important “want” should be the one you can control! SHANNON L. ALDER If he emotionally cheated on you remember this before you take him back. It was a choice to do it an... SHANNON L. ALDER The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling the... SHANNON L. ALDER A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a woman’s reputation and spirit, in order to... SHANNON L. ALDER Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading the... SHANNON L. ALDER I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually,... SHANNON L. ALDER Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases some... 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