Talk to your relatives. Remind them of your son's special needs, such as having a designated 'quiet room' for hectic times. Be firm but polite when asking for special arrangements and thank everyone for their support.

This ensures he'll be entertained and gives him a sense of security and choice. Include puzzle books, hand-held games, and an audio-cassette or CD player (with individual headphones) for listening to music or books on tape.

It's not unusual for a child with ADHD to have mood swings from boredom to bouts of over-excitement during long breaks from school.

I figure people are good enough to donate it, it needs to be there for future relatives.

If a victim comes to us, we want to make sure that they get their needs met here. So that they're not having to go from agency to agency to agency to get help.

Do not refuse to help your own relatives.