The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person.

The ''Inside-Out'' approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self / with your paradigms, your character, and your motives. The inside-out approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves recedes making and keeping promises to others. It says it is futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve relationships with others before improving ourselves.

People simply feel better about themselves when they’re good at something.

The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.

Security represents your sense of worth, your identity, your emotional anchorage, your self-esteem, your basic personal strength or lack of it.

Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is. Treat a man as he can and should be and
he will become as he can and should be.