Alice Miller quote: "The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother's love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions."

I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce ...
ALICE MILLER

The capacity of the human organism to bear pain is, for our own protection, limited. All attempts to...
ALICE MILLER

The truth about childhood, as many of us have had to endure it, is inconceivable, scandalous, painfu...
ALICE MILLER

,,,It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has ...
ALICE MILLER

A child too, can never grasp the fact that the same mother who cooks so well, is so concerned about ...
ALICE MILLER

When a woman like that whom I've seen so much, All of a sudden drops out of touch; Is always busy an...
ALICE MILLER

If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take th...
ALICE MILLER

Genuine forgiveness does not deny anger but faces it head-on.
ALICE MILLER

Don't ever dare to take your college as a matter of course - because, like democracy and freedom, ma...
ALICE MILLER

Regression to the stage of early infancy is not a suitable method in and of itself. Such a regressio...
ALICE MILLER

Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feelings.
ALICE MILLER

Narcissistic cathexis of the child by the mother does not exclude emotional devotion. On the contrar...
ALICE MILLER

The results of any traumatic experience, such as abuse, can only be resolved by experiencing, articu...
ALICE MILLER

Those children who are beaten will in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimida...
ALICE MILLER

It is possible to resolve childhood repression safely and without confusion - something that has alw...
ALICE MILLER

Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one's own despised and unwanted feeling...
ALICE MILLER

Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory ...
ALICE MILLER

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to...
ALICE MILLER

A child too, can never grasp the fact that the same mother who cooks so well, is so concerned about ...
ALICE MILLER

It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. ...
ALICE MILLER

What is addiction, really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tell...
ALICE MILLER

People who, as children, were intellectually far beyond their parents and therefore admired by them,...
ALICE MILLER

It was 20 below zero, but it was a dry cold. It was not too bad.
ALICE MILLER

The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than wi...
ALICE MILLER

Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning...
ALICE MILLER

Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy.
ALICE MILLER

Theoretically, I can imagine that someday we will regard or children not add creatures to manipulate...
ALICE MILLER

Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illnes...
ALICE MILLER

We produce destructive people by the way we are treating them in childhood.
ALICE MILLER

Thus he spent his whole life searching for his own truth, but it remained hidden to him because he h...
ALICE MILLER

The more we idealized the past, however, and refuse to acknowledge or childhood sufferings, the more...
ALICE MILLER

To forget and to repress would be a good solution if there were no more to it than that. But repress...
ALICE MILLER

It is among the commonplaces of education that we often first cut off the living root and then try t...
ALICE DUER MILLER

If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take th...
ALICE DUER MILLER

Mr. President how long must women wait to get their liberty? Let us have the rights we deserve.
ALICE PAUL

I think fashion can always date, but I think if a woman has elegance, she doesn't date.
ALICE TEMPERLEY

The decisions you make are a choice of values that reflect your life in every way.
ALICE WATERS

When the wind blows through a wood, its mass is cut and closed by every leaf, forming a train of jit...
ALICE OSWALD

I think that I do feel that my nature is to express what this self, this particular self at this tim...
ALICE WALKER

I don't call myself a Buddhist. I'm a free spirit. I believe I'm here on earth to admire...
ALICE WALKER

It is because I recognize the brutality with which my own multi-branched ancestors have been treated...
ALICE WALKER

After I dropped out of college at the age of 19, I became a mortgage broker, and when I went back to...
ALICE DREGER

Instead of constantly enhancing the norm - forever upping the ante of the 'normal' with new ...
ALICE DREGER

One of the rules of Greek lament poetry is that it mustn't mention the dead by name in case of i...
ALICE OSWALD

The sea has this contradictory quality, that the more you see of it, the more it overwhelms the eye ...
ALICE OSWALD

I think it is more of an intuitive, circular kind of personality, for starters. And, as I say of hor...
ALICE WALTON

It seems our fate to be incorrect (look where we live, for example), and in our incorrectness stand.
ALICE WALKER

I find talking about my work harder than it might be if honesty wasn't my calling card.
ALICE SEBOLD

My father loved 'Godard and Truffaut.' He was more artsy. My mom loved the 'Bourne' ...
ALICE BRAGA

What interests me is whatever it is that allows the heart to continue to yearn for something the int...
ALICE MCDERMOTT

You just let your lower self go, and then it takes on all these aspects of the society - the city wi...
ALICE COOPER

If we want to fight people in the world, we should fight them with pillows - pillows stuffed with fo...
ALICE WALKER

How long will it take the citizens of the United States, one wonders, to recognize that the house th...
ALICE WALKER

We say we waste time, but that is impossible. We waste ourselves.
ALICE BLOCH

Eclectic yet classic with a playful bohemian twist is how I'd describe my style.
ALICE TEMPERLEY

I am optimistic and confident in all that I do. I affirm only the best for myself and others. I am...
ALICE POTTER

I deliberately went to boarding school. It was my choice. My mum was abroad and I wanted to wean mys...
ALICE ENGLERT

I do a lot of research. For 'I Am Legend', I did a lot of research about survivors. If every...
ALICE BRAGA

The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any
ALICE WALKER

Writing saved me from the sin and inconvenience of violence.
ALICE WALKER

Don't wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you've got to make you...
ALICE WALKER

I try to teach my heart not to want things it can't have
ALICE WALKER

Us sing and dance, make faces and give flower bouquets, trying to be loved. You ever notice that tre...
ALICE WALKER

I think we have to own the fears that we have of each other, and then, in some practical way, some...
ALICE WALKER

It takes a long time to learn that a courtroom is the last place in the world for learning the truth...
ALICE KOLLER

The hippies wanted peace and love. We wanted Ferraris, blondes and switchblades.
ALICE COOPER

In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways,...
ALICE WALKER

Housework never really bothered me... what bothered me about it later was that it was expected to be...
ALICE MUNRO

The sight of a Black nun strikes their sentimentality; and, as I am unalterably rooted in native gro...
ALICE WALKER

She say, Celie, tell the truth, have you ever found God in church? I never did. I just found a bunch...
ALICE WALKER

The experience of God, or in any case the possibility of experiencing God, is innate.
ALICE WALKER

For in the end, freedom is a personal and lonely battle; and one faces down fears of today so that t...
ALICE WALKER

A child is beset with long traditions. And his infancy is so old, so old, that the mere adding of ye...
ALICE MEYNELL

Deliver me from writers who say the way they live doesn't matter. I'm not sure a bad person can writ...
ALICE WALKER

The difficulty about all this dying, is that you can't tell a fellow anything about it, so where doe...
ALICE JAMES

It is healthier, in any case, to write for the adults one's children will become than for the childr...
ALICE WALKER

One has a greater sense of intellectual degradation after an interview with a doctor than from any ...
ALICE JAMES

The sense of humor has other things to do than to make itself conspicuous in the act of laughter.
ALICE MEYNELL

Confidence in a bloke would be arrogance in a woman. For years, I didn't give interviews because...
ALICE LOWE

When I'm doing the first draft, I have a so-much-a-day schedule. But when I start putting it on the ...
ALICE MUNRO

The stories are not autobiographical, but they're personal in that way. I seem to know only the thin...
ALICE MUNRO

The deep, personal material of the latter half of your life is your children. You can write about yo...
ALICE MUNRO

That's something I think is growing on me as I get older: happy endings.
ALICE MUNRO

Memory is the way we keep telling ourselves our stories - and telling other people a somewhat differ...
ALICE MUNRO

The complexity of things - the things within things - just seems to be endless. I mean nothing is ea...
ALICE MUNRO

We have met numerous times as a neighborhood. We are united in our opposition.
ALICE MOORE

These men, whether laicized, defrocked, or restricted from ministry, continue to pose a threat to al...
ALICE MOORE

I thought if someone is willing to donate them, we're willing to take them. It never hurts to ask.
ALICE MOORE

We buy them (books) as our budget allows. But eighth grade has four trade books (individual-title bo...
ALICE MOORE

Having separate proceedings will allow the NRC to fully assess the specific characteristics of each ...
ALICE MOORE

We were very concerned about a monopoly and really focused on opportunities to bring new retailers t...
ALICE MOORE

Our goal here is to provide low prices on high-quality products and excellent services to consumers ...
ALICE MOORE

The goal here is to provide opportunities for new retailers to enter our marketplace.
ALICE MOORE

Flocks of the memories of the day draw near / The dovecot doors of sleep.
ALICE MEYNELL

I must not think of thee; and, tired yet strong, / I shun the thought that lurks in all delight - / ...
ALICE MEYNELL

Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind
ALICE MEYNELL

Recurrence is sure. What the mind suffered last week, or last year, it does not suffer now; but it w...
ALICE MEYNELL

Holy Saturday All night had shouts of men and cry Of woeful women filled His way; Until that noon ...
ALICE MEYNELL

Feast of Dominic, Priest, Founder of the Order of Preachers, 1221 Continuing a short series of vers...
ALICE MEYNELL

Given, not lent, And not withdrawn, once sent, This Infant of mankind, this One, Is still the lit...
ALICE MEYNELL

Some parents, even really good parents, don't think to start that soon. During the Week of the Young...
ALICE MCGREW

One of the messages we want to get across ... is when children do not get what they need it is a ref...
ALICE MCGREW

It is a community issue, not just parents.
ALICE MCGREW

All parents want their children to succeed in school. They just don't know how to help them. When yo...
ALICE MCGREW

I'm just absolutely overjoyed. These people have all stayed with their faith their denomination and ...
ALICE MCCARTHY

The idea of it is to examine religious issues. They (panelist) are radical in the sense that they go...
ALICE MCCARTHY

They call us to action to love each other. Just in the correspondence I've been having with them, I ...
ALICE MCCARTHY

I think that if there is a large number of people here that it will get the churches talking. I thin...
ALICE MCCARTHY

I'm just absolutely overjoyed. These people have all stayed with their faith ÃƒÂ¢Ã¢Â‚Â¬Ã...
ALICE MCCARTHY

When we bring something in, we usually only bring three or four pieces in.
ALICE MARQUARDT

A lot of these customers are our friends.
ALICE MARQUARDT

She wants personal service -- somebody who knows her name and somebody who knows her size.
ALICE MARQUARDT

She's a woman who probably can afford a little bit better clothes that fit her well and make her fee...
ALICE MARQUARDT

If you haven't got anything good to say about anyone come and sit by me.
ALICE LONGWORTH

The secret of eternal youth is arrested development.
ALICE LONGWORTH

If you can't say something good about someone, sit right here by me
ALICE LONGWORTH

He [Calvin Coolidge] looks as though he's been weaned on a pickle.
ALICE LONGWORTH

He looks as though he's been weaned on a pickle
ALICE LONGWORTH

My father always wanted to be the corpse at every funeral, the bride at every wedding, and the baby ...
ALICE LONGWORTH

Dorothy is the only woman in history who has had her menopause in public and made it pay.
ALICE LONGWORTH

I have a simple philosophy. Fill what's empty. Empty what's full. And scratch where it itches.
ALICE LONGWORTH

I've always believed in the adage that the secret of eternal youth is arrested development
ALICE LONGWORTH

If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me.
ALICE LONGWORTH

I think it's an interesting study. It's certainly very well done, but it raises a lot of questions.
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

That's always the benefit of labeling -- it's not just that people read the label but that it really...
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

What that means is either there's no trans fat or there's up to .49 grams, or a little under half a ...
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

As of Jan. 1, any packaged food that does not have trans fatty acid labeling should not be sold.
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

Increasing omega-3 fatty acid intake through foods is preferable.
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

What's really important is that we carefully look at what our lifestyle patterns are, our eating pat...
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

People need to make fundamental changes - they don't have to be drastic.
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

It sounded great! People could eat all the forbidden foods and lose weight,
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

That is serious calories. We can only hope that the consumer is smart enough to realize that you can...
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

That is serious calories,
ALICE LICHTENSTEIN

We understand that self-defense is an important right and that deadly force is sometimes the result....
ALICE JOHNSON

The whole back porch is gone. And the shelter over there, it just picked the posts and all up out of...
ALICE JOHNSON

My legs and feet got so cold, I thought I'd never get to sleep last night.
ALICE JOHNSON

We're trying to prevent injuries and deaths from gun violence, and we're very concerned with both of...
ALICE JOHNSON

I wonder whether if I had an education I should have been more or less a fool that I am
ALICE JAMES

You must remember that a woman, by nature, needs much less to feed upon than a man, a few emotions a...
ALICE JAMES

Though I have no productive worth, I have a certain value as an indestructible quantity.
ALICE JAMES

I make it a rule always to believe compliments implicitly for five minutes, and to simmer gently for...
ALICE JAMES

It is so comic to hear oneself called old, even at ninety I suppose!
ALICE JAMES

How sick one gets of being ''good,'' how much I should respect myself if I could burst out and make ...
ALICE JAMES

The success or failure of a life, as far as posterity goes, seems to lie in the more or less luck of...
ALICE JAMES

Physical pain however great ends in itself and falls away like dry husks from the mind, whilst moral...
ALICE JAMES

It puts additional pressure on institutions. For us, it's $34,000. It is less revenue that we have t...
ALICE JACOBS

We need to make sure physicians are aware that women may need special tests and different diagnostic...
ALICE JACOBS

Wear Red Day is an opportunity for everyone to remember their female friends and family members who ...
ALICE JACOBS

This year's state of heart for women brings good news and bad news:ÃƒÂ‚Ã‚Â Death rates are...
ALICE JACOBS

We must reverse this trend. Medical research plays a vital role in the discovery of treatments and c...
ALICE JACOBS

What people need to realize is they have a first person view of history and as many of the personal ...
ALICE JACKSON

I plan to share my knowledge in reporting to help people cope with the storm. I will show them how t...
ALICE JACKSON

It's a large chunk of time out of the instructional day and it's large chunk of time out of the inst...
ALICE JACKSON

We don't make a big deal about it. We don't want to create test anxiety.
ALICE JACKSON

If we can start to say that's not acceptable in town, we can change that culture.
ALICE JACKSON

If they know there are consequences, they don't do things. If they know at the dance they will be ch...
ALICE JACKSON

I like the books because the heroines don't do what others want them to, they do what they want.
ALICE HYDE

We were both happy ... we celebrated by having pizza with our family.
ALICE HYDE

Cement sales resumed to customers on Sunday, February 26 after the problem was identified and resolv...
ALICE HYDE

I began studying geography because I wanted to learn more about the world I live in.
ALICE HYDE

It is a lot of work trying to put this concert together. I have a lot of responsibilities. But I hav...
ALICE HOWES

We haven't worked together yet. We each have been doing our own section of the concert and will put ...
ALICE HOWES

It was a very long process. For instance, we have to take text or poetry, translate it into sign lan...
ALICE HOWES

We are both trying to find our own inspiration and movement. My inspiration is sign language.
ALICE HOWES

Such an ugly thing to happen in such a beautiful place.
ALICE HOGAN

While we as a nation have made considerable progress in attracting women into most science and engin...
ALICE HOGAN

Hawthorne has given us a tradition that some people refer to as Yankee Magic Realism, and I do think...
ALICE HOFFMAN

Every time I finish a book, I forget everything I learned writing it - the information just disappea...
ALICE HOFFMAN

Even in times when it's difficult to figure out, how do you go forward, art - and books - always hel...
ALICE HOFFMAN

Anyway, the sort of love that will not wait is probably best to pass by.
ALICE HOFFMAN

Any institution becomes a community - whether it's a high school or a boarding school or a publishin...
ALICE HOFFMAN

All the characters in my books are imagined, but all have a bit of who I am in them - much like the ...
ALICE HOFFMAN

After a while, the characters I'm writing begin to feel real to me. That's when I know I'm heading i...
ALICE HOFFMAN

We're helping the survivors of Katrina, having our voices heard, and it's a great way to take back S...
ALICE HOFFMAN

I'm thinking of reading something by chef Paul Prudhomme. It's a reading of all kinds of Southern li...
ALICE HOFFMAN

The first step must be, of course, an inquiry into the extent of our industrial sickness, and he det...
ALICE HAMILTON

Surely there is every reason why we should devote to this disease the same intelligence and energy t...
ALICE HAMILTON

No young doctor nowadays can hope for work as exciting and rewarding.
ALICE HAMILTON

It was impossible for me to believe that conditions in Europe could be worse than they were in the P...
ALICE HAMILTON

It was easy to present figures demonstrating the contrast between lead work in the United States und...
ALICE HAMILTON

Illinois then had no legislation providing compensation for accident or disease caused by occupation...
ALICE HAMILTON

From the first I became convinced that what I must look for was lead dust and lead fumes, that men w...
ALICE HAMILTON

Everything I discovered was new and most of it was really valuable.
ALICE HAMILTON

Every article I wrote in those days, every speech I made, is full of pleading for the recognition of...
ALICE HAMILTON

Before moving to Utah, she raised dachshunds and Shetland ponies at the family home on Jackson Stree...
ALICE GILBORN

She kept it in her upstairs bedroom. It would hang in a closet by its tail.
ALICE GILBORN

I learned that one has to be really focused and devote oneself if you're going to get into the anima...
ALICE GILBORN

She returned to Colorado with three children and an even larger assortment of animals, including a g...
ALICE GILBORN

Our job is to make sure the money is not diverted to fraudsters.
ALICE FISHER

We have a zero tolerance for people stealing funds meant for storm victims. Many of the cases we are...
ALICE FISHER

This is not something the department should be getting involved with,
ALICE FISHER

We're going to act quickly and aggressively to detect any kind of fraud and vigorously pursue it if ...
ALICE FISHER

If it doesn't look right, chances are it's not,
ALICE FISHER

When individuals meet here in the shadow of our nation's capital to go prepare for violent action, w...
ALICE FISHER

[The standoff stems from an FBI e-mail revealed during recent litigation over detainee-abuse allegat...
ALICE FISHER

Philip Bloom admits offering millions in bribes so that he and his companies could receive contracts...
ALICE FISHER

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