We do get quite a lot of reticence about it.

I said nothing—I hadn’t known Marya, and anyway, “listening quietly” was my general social strategy

I do not want to talk about it.

This initiative is quite simply historic, and even revolutionary,

The post on her left was occupied by Mr. Erskine of Treadley, an old gentleman of considerable charm and culture, who had fallen, however, into bad habits of silence, having, as he explained once to Lady Agatha, said everything that he had to say before he was thirty.

I remember manners, that's when people are scared to make other persons mad.