Although the outward picture of depression is quite the opposite of that of grandiosity and has a quality that expresses the tragedy of the loss of self in a more obvious way, they have many points in common:
-	The false self that has led to the loss of the potential true self 
-	A fragility of self-esteem because of a lack of confidence in one’s own feelings and wishes
-	Perfectionism
-	Denial of rejected feelings
-	A preponderance of exploitative relationships
-	An enormous fear of loss of love and therefore a great readiness to conform
-	Split-off aggression
-	Oversensitivity
-	A readiness to feel shame and guilt
-	Restlessness
 — Alice MIller, The Drama of the gifted child
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