The first key to leadership was self-control, particularly the mastery of pride, which was something more difficult, he explained, to subdue than a wild lion and anger, which was more difficult to defeat than the greatest wrestler. He warned them that "if you can't swallow your pride, you can't lead.

It's futile to talk reason to anger

Anger can be defeated by controlling our emotions without upsetting the nerves.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.

You have the right to be angry but it is not always right to be angry.

But there are indeed specific obstacles to change, which different people experience in different ways. In some sense, what we are calling obstacles to change are actually defenses against some perceived threat if we change, so we persist in thoughts that were originally protective.

Identifying the things that get in our way as we want to change becomes complex and difficult.