We all enjoy pushing ourselves to accomplish our objectives. But we don't need stress to get there.

We need to distinguish between stress and stimulation. Having deadlines, setting goals, and pushing yourself to perform at capacity are stimulating. Stress is when you're anxious, upset, or frustrated, which dramatically reduce your ability to perform.

Stress is the negative whirlwind of emotions that gets imposed on top of our stimulation and engagement.

It's time we learned the truth about stress. It's time we identified the thoughts that actually create our stress and learned to dismantle them one by one.

You can't tell yourself that your stress is produced in your head and feel better. You still need to learn how to create a change.

Stress is never a given. There are people who get divorced amicably. There are people who pack up and move with no emotional toll. There is no stressor 'out there' in the world. We experience stress - or we don't - depending on what we believe.