We’re in charge of our own forgiveness, and the process takes time, patience, and intention.

There’s no denying that it takes effort to set the intention to see our fundamental connected-ness with others.

We cannot instantaneously force ourselves to forgive—and forgiveness happens at a different pace for everyone and is dependent on the particulars of any given situation.

There are an incalculable—even infinite—number of situations in which we can practice forgiveness.

Expecting it to be a singular action—motivated by the sheer imperative to move on and forget—can be more damaging than the original feelings of anger.

Accepting forgiveness as pluralistic and as an ongoing, individualized process opens us up to realize the role that our own needs play in conflict resolution.

The skills available to us through mindfulness make it possible to bring love to our connections with others.

The first step toward feeling compassion for others is to set the intention to try it out.