With mindfulness, loving kindness, and self-compassion, we can begin to let go of our expectations about how life and those we love should be.

Concepts such as loving kindness should never be used as weapons against our real feelings.

Letting go is an inside job, something only we can do for ourselves.

No matter what we think we should do, I don’t think you can coerce yourself into loving your neighbor—or your boss—when you can’t stand him. But if you try to understand your feelings of dislike with mindfulness and compassion, being sure not to forget self-compassion, you create the possibility for change.

Mindfulness, also called wise attention, helps us see what we’re adding to our experiences, not only during meditation sessions but also elsewhere.

We use mindfulness to observe the way we cling to pleasant experiences & push away unpleasant ones.