You will never let go of the past by ignoring the most painful thing the person you loved has done to you. When you begin to minimize it, second guess yourself and others, ignore it or even pretend it didn't happen you cheat yourself out of healing. Naturally, your mind would rather believe the lies you are telling it, rather than accept the truth. The soul has a way of protecting itself from trauma, but if left in denial there is no growth or change. Healing requires going to that place you avoid and asking yourself why you are so afraid to accept the reality of what happened to you? Why have you minimized it like this person has wanted you to? What is it about your self esteem that allows you to continue being a doormat?
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ALDER The moon will guide you through the night with her brightness, but she will always dwell in the dark... SHANNON L. ALDER Often people that criticise your life are usually the same people that don't know the price you paid... SHANNON L. ALDER No boundary or barrier surrounds the heart of a person that loves their self and others. SHANNON L. ALDER The only real conflict you will ever have in your life won’t be with others, but with yourself. SHANNON L. ALDER Fear is to begin with the end in mind. There is no end. Life is eternal. Live life knowing that the ... SHANNON L. ALDER A Plan B life can be just as good or better than a Plan A life. You just have to let go of that firs... SHANNON L. ALDER It is not lies or a lack of loyalty that ends a relationship. It is the agonizing truth that one per... SHANNON L. ALDER The most important thing is this: to sacrifice what you are now for what you can become tomorrow. SHANNON L. 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The moment you tell everyone you have a mental disorder... SHANNON L. ALDER Feelings are something you have; not something you are. SHANNON L. ALDER The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to respect the woman that gave birth to his c... SHANNON L. ALDER A heart worth loving is one you understand, even in silence. SHANNON L. ALDER Perspective is as simple as answering this question: If I had 5 months to live would I experience th... SHANNON L. ALDER Whenever you can’t balance what you see with what you believe you have conflict. SHANNON L. ALDER Spiritual pain is when you can’t stand another moment not knowing the real truth, and when you fin... SHANNON L. ALDER Do not conform to seek the seekers, but leave the leavers. Wisdom comes from facing what you do not ... SHANNON L. ALDER Accomplishments don’t erase shame, hatred, cruelty, silence, ignorance, discrimination, low self-e... SHANNON L. ALDER Honesty is vulnerability. Sadly, not everyone can handle someone’s honesty. However, lying allows ... SHANNON L. ALDER Regardless of your faith, you can never escape uncertainty. SHANNON L. ALDER Half of the time, the Holy Ghost tries to warn us about certain people that come into our life. The ... SHANNON L. ALDER The only person that should wear your ring is the one person that would never… 1... SHANNON L. ALDER Marriage is the beginning of love for your spouse, not the result of it. SHANNON L. ALDER It is not the hand that rocks the cradle that rules the world; it is the woman that holds the keys t... SHANNON L. ALDER When I was a child, an angel came to say, A true friend is coming my warrior to sweep you away,... SHANNON L. ALDER When someone you love dies, you are given the gift of "second chances". Their eulogy is a reminder t... SHANNON L. ALDER One of the most powerful lessons in life is to recognize that no one can give you power, and many pe... SHANNON L. ALDER Her wounds brought her a great source of power because they lived in the same place as her heart. SHANNON L. ALDER You're only a victim to the degree of what your perception allows. SHANNON L. ALDER Your most important “want” should be the one you can control! SHANNON L. ALDER If he emotionally cheated on you remember this before you take him back. It was a choice to do it an... SHANNON L. ALDER The number of chances you give someone doesn't tell the world how loving you are without telling the... SHANNON L. ALDER A deceitful man will go as far as to trample all over a woman’s reputation and spirit, in order to... SHANNON L. ALDER Be leery of silence. It doesn't mean you won the argument. Often, people are just busy reloading the... SHANNON L. ALDER I am tired of people saying that poor character is the only reason people do wrong things. Actually,... SHANNON L. ALDER Temptation goes both ways. Sometimes, you can be tempted to live a half life because it pleases some... 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